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Testosterone Therapy: The Good, the Bad & the Ugly
I get asked all the time ... "Is testosterone therapy safe?" To which I answer, "Yes ... but not always ... and only if your doctor knows what he's doing. Not much of an answer, I know. The truth is that for the vast majority of guys, testosterone therapy is not only...
Mr. Disappearing Man – What To Do When Your Husband Struggles to Lead
"I think that's the phone," my husband said and walked away to answer it. No huge surprise there. Mr. Disappearing Man I watched his back for a moment, and then turned back to the conversation with our son. "Don't worry about your co-op position falling through,...
The Loop – What’s Blocking Your Husband from Leading His Family?
The TL;DR background is that during his low testosterone years, my husband had become disconnected from what was going on in our family and had stopped being the leader in our marriage. He had long since fixed the low T, but our dynamics were still skewed toward me...
3 Vital Concepts You Need to Know about Attracting Your Wife
The reason so many guys don’t attract their wives is because they're missing three vital concepts about attraction ... Attraction Doesn’t Grow Itself Someone Has to Take on the Job of Building Attraction You're the One Best Suited for the Job Attraction Doesn’t Grow...
Attract Your Wife – Weekend Warrior Tip #6: Have a Plan
6th in a series … Things You Can Do This Weekend to Attract Your Wife Tomorrow morning, the same conversation will take place in millions of bedrooms across suburbia. “What are our plans for the weekend, husband?” Deceptively simply, but depending on the answer,...
He Killed a Mountain Lion with his Bare Hands … This is How She Responded
This meme has it upside down. You can't go 'get a woman who looks at you this way.' No such thing as an 'Adoring Wife' store. You have to be the guy who kills mountain lions. There are no shortcuts. Attraction is like everything else in life worth having ... it...
Attract Your Wife – Weekend Warrior Tip #5: Get Out There and Grill
5th in a series … Things You Can Do This Weekend to Attract Your Wife This one is super simple. Get outside and grill this weekend. There's just something sexy about a man who grills. Maybe it's being out in the elements, maybe it's a caveman thing ... he-man...
One Surefire Way to Get Her to Stop Taking You for Granted
Your wife takes you for granted because you're a sure thing. If you want to get her attention and build attraction, you have to do this one thing. Create a sense of Mystery What makes Super Heroes so sexy? Amongst all those muscles and bounding over buildings, they...
Attract Your Wife – Weekend Warrior Tip #4: Stand Your Ground
4th in a series … Things You Can Do This Weekend to Attract Your Wife Quickest way to attract your wife? Stand up to her. Sounds deceptively simple, but if you’ve been married for a while, you know how difficult it can be. If you could only do one thing for the rest...
Attract Your Wife – Weekend Tip #3: Go Do Your Own Thing
3rd in a series … Things You Can Do This Weekend to Attract Your Wife This one sounds counter-intuitive ... how does leaving your wife at the house and going off to do something fun by yourself build attraction? After all, you’re not even with her. All the marriage...
When Your Husband Stops Wanting Sex – Trust, but Verify
When your guy stops reaching for you, what’s the first thing you do? C’mon, that’s a throwaway question. You Google, of course. It’s the 21st century; we google everything. The first step to finding an answer is understanding the problem. And you can't understand a...
Attract Your Wife – Weekend Tip #2: Hold a Planning Meeting
2nd in a series … Things You Can Do This Weekend to Attract Your Wife Last week, I talked about how to lead by pulling your wife into your orbit with positive energy and a sense of fun. Another aspect of leadership is simply being someone who has a plan. Think of your...
Attract Your Wife – Weekend Tip #1: Do Something Active with Her
1st in a series … Things You Can Do This Weekend to Attract Your Wife Leadership. It’s a misunderstood concept. You don’t have to beat your chest and dictate to people in order to lead. At its best, leadership involves pulling, not pushing. You pull people toward you...
Yes, But What if We Really *Are* Turning the Freakin’ Frogs Gay?
You know, I’m not really a conspiracy theorist. I don’t think George Bush caused 9/11, I think we really did walk on the moon, and I don’t think chem trails are turning the freakin’ frogs … well, hold on a sec … There is actually something kind of wonky going on with...
5 Reasons Not to Settle for ‘Duty Sex’
Duty sex, pity sex, guilt sex, starfish sex, hate sex … there are a lot of different names for it. It’s this idea that in a marriage, the lower-drive partner (usually the wife, but not always) should have sex simply to please their partner. In other words … (the...
How Much Sunshine Do You Need for Powerful Erections?
If you listen to mainstream media, you get the idea that we should all avoid any hint of deadly sunshine. Turns out that while the vampire lifestyle may be great for your complexion, it’s hell on your erections. In fact, Dracula was likely reaching for the Viagra on...
Why She Doesn’t Want Sex Even when She’s Attracted … 5 Ways to Build Intimacy
My blog post ideas typically come straight from things going on with my coaching clients. One thing I’m seeing a lot of lately is a lack of intimacy/connection in the couples I work with, and the resulting decline in their sex life. 3 Love Systems If you’ve been at...
7-Minute Fix that Instantly Improves Intimacy
If I told you it’s possible to hack into the brain and almost instantly increase feelings of love and intimacy, would you believe it? It’s actually true. Take two people, put them together with certain questions and have them look into each others' eyes, and they...
Taking a Break for the Holidays
Hi Guys, Rebecca here. Just want to let you know that I'm taking a week off for the holidays. I've got a lot of comments and emails piling up, and blog posts rolling around in my head, and I will get to them, but not until next week. Not ignoring y'all, but I have...
5 Ways to Get Her Off Her Phone and Into Bed
Ever wonder why she’ll stay on Facebook or play Candy Crush for hours, but has absolutely no energy for sex? One word answer … Dopamine. Dopamine is the chemical in our brain that rewards us with pleasure whenever we do something that involves novelty, variety, or...
Top 10 Signs that Your Wife is Attracted
Reader question from a few days ago: Hi Rebecca, ... Lots of advice on the website have the prerequisite that the woman should already be attracted. Can you please help and give clues on how would I know if my wife is attracted and how to judge the level of...
‘I Was Hooked’: Bodybuilder Rich Piana’s Deadly Battle with Steroids
Dead at age 46, decades of abusing steroids made Rich Piana a god in the bodybuilding world. But it ultimately killed him. Testosterone therapy and steroid abuse. What's the difference? The difference is huge. Literally. Super High Testosterone Levels Are...
Problems Posting Comments
Just got word that people are trying to post comments that aren't going through because of a 'captcha code' malfunction. I downloaded a new Comments plug-in this week, and there was a glitch with it. I personally detest having to fill out captcha codes in order to...
Testosterone = Erections & Quality of Life, New Study Shows
Boston University School of Medicine found that for guys with low testosterone, taking T therapy improved their erections, as well as their overall quality of life. They were also less likely to have urinary and prostate problems. They followed almost 700 guys for...
The 3 Times a Woman Initiates Like a Man
I get a lot of questions about why women don’t initiate more … like men do. Or initiate more like men. Well, the answer is simple … they aren’t men. And then I get angsty blog comments like this … She wanted sex tonight, asked me to come to bed naked after my shower,...
Better Erections: The One Daily Habit that’s Tanking Your Performance
Mouthwash … it doesn’t just kill plaque. Now, that's a slogan you don’t see Proctor & Gamble using. But it's quite likely your mouthwash isn't doing your erections any favors. Read on. Nitric Oxide Produces Good Erections Erections are all about nitric oxide. Not...
Are Men Going the Way of the Dinosaur?
Remember that ridiculously silly slogan from the 70’s? A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. Well, biology may just accomplish what the feminists couldn’t. For the hundreds of years in which records have been kept, there have been more male babies born than...
Want More Sex? Stop Asking Her for Money
Listening to a group of firefighters the other day, and what I heard literally made me wince. One of them is on the phone asking his wife if he can spend twenty bucks on something. No joke. The dude is asking his wife’s permission to spend part of his own salary. But...
Want to Keep Your Kid from Using Tobacco or Drugs? Try This Surefire Method
A Family of Smokers I come from a family of smokers. My dad smoked heavily for almost 50 years. Right up to the point he had part of his lung removed because of lung cancer. All four of my brothers smoke. Both my granddads, and most of my uncles. I was born into a...
The Allergy Med You’re Taking that Causes ED
Re-posting this one as allergy season is upon us ... In most parts of the country, Spring is breaking the back of Winter .... finally. It's warming up, the trees are budding out .... and all that lovely pollen is floating on the warm breezes right into your...