When She Can’t Stop Fighting & Never Wants Sex

Does it feel like your wife constantly criticizes – that she can’t stop fighting & never wants sex?

I just talked with Michael, a client in the Peak Attraction program, who was in that exact situation.

Michael’s hit some major new milestones in his marriage.

Changes Michael is Seeing

Conflict is way down. His wife actually apologized for being rude to him the other night.

— Which may not sound like much, but his wife *always* thinks she’s in the right. This is the first apology he’s had from her in years – maybe ever!

And sex is at an all-time high. Michael’s wife even initiated last week. That makes twice in two weeks.

And certain things that have been off limits for years are all of a sudden back on the table.

Red letter days for Michael.

He has honestly been flabbergasted at the changes. He didn’t really think it was possible.

But it turns out that changing the way he handled interactions with his wife actually increased attraction.

Michael’s Situation – where he started

It hasn’t been this good in his marriage for a long time.

— Michael juggles a successful, but high-stress job. Has 4 kids. Including two pre-teens with an attitude.

And a wife who’s always been scrappy and glad to pick a fight.

— She grew up in a hugely volatile family where knock-down, drag-out fights were common.

That’s a problem because Michael was raised in a quiet, stable home where he rarely saw his parents fight.

He didn’t really have the tools to deal with the kind of conflict his wife put down.

When She Can’t Stop Fighting & Never Wants Sex

When we met, Michael was stressed. His wife was high-criticism, high-conflict. It felt like she always ‘won’.

And he just didn’t have the energy to keep up with it.

He gave in a lot just to keep the peace. His gut told him that was part of the problem, but he couldn’t see a solution.

As Michael said, “She can talk rings around me.”

Sex had hit rock-bottom. Once a month. Maybe. If he was lucky.

She’d be more into it some months, but the next month it’d be back to nothing.

He felt like he was always starting back at zero. Despair is not too strong a word for what Michael felt.

Here’s a snapshot of his marriage back then:

When She Can’t Stop Fighting & Never Wants Sex

Here’s How He Fixed It

Since then, Michael’s made huge shifts —

1. He focused on doing his own thing and making his world bigger.
2. Stopped doing everything around the house to make her happy. (it wasn’t working)
3. Began quietly leaving the house when she was over the top.
4. Started building muscle. (huge results with this one)
5. And came up with a plan for weekends – their highest conflict time.

All this despite his wife having no interest in ‘working on the marriage’.

Don’t get me wrong – conflict still happens, but it’s way less volatile.

And sex is a ton better. His wife is doing things with him she’s never done. Even in the beginning.

Here’s what his marriage looks like today:

Michael, if you’re reading this – know that we’re super proud of you.

Thanks for getting out of your comfort zone and showing you can have it all.

— If your own marriage has too much conflict – and not enough sex –  Just send me a message with the word PRIVATE … and tell me a little bit about your situation and what you’d like to work on together, and I’ll get you all the details! — Click Here

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