You initiate and it’s hit-or-miss as to how it goes down that night. Cold shoulder, reluctant acceptance, or hot wife. Which door do you get?

Sometimes it actually works … she’s into it … fun is had by all … but you have no idea why. Why tonight, but not the other eighty-seven nights you initiated? It feels like the lottery, and it’s impossible to “guess” that winning combination.

You’re a good husband, a good provider, and a good dad, and you’ve turned yourself inside out trying to get your wife interested. You feel cheated, angry, and resentful. You wonder why you ever got married in the first place or if you married the wrong person.

So, what’s the deal with that? Why isn’t the woman you married more interested in having sex with you?
If she loves me, why does she keep turning me down?

The reason is simple:

Because you’re doing all the right things … but you’re focusing on the wrong system.

Let me explain what I mean.