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The Twenty Minute Swimsuit Challenge
Annual Swim Suit Scourge It's warming up here in the south ... 85 degrees today ... Which brings summer to mind. Ahhh! Flowers blooming ... birds singing ... wearing sandals ... trying on bathing suits ... screeech!!! The dreaded swim suit scourge. White pasty skin....
Doing This One Thing Makes Him Less Likely to Want You
Part 1 of a 3-part series for women trying to increase attraction in their marriage. One mistake I see women make over and over again is they build their whole life around their husband. While it’s great to want to spend time with him, if you make your husband your...
Post Where I Want to Smack a Feminist
Not really smack her. Or, at least, not much. Lover, not fighter, and all that. But I did get a bit hot under the collar when my 14-year old son came home with this story. His science teacher, Mrs. W. is a staunch feminist. Which is fine. I'm all about empowering...
Review – Does Zestra Really Increase Female Arousal?
One request I frequently get from women is for products that will increase their libido and/or arousal. A lot of women struggle with arousal or orgasm, and start feeling pretty desperate about it. What is Zestra? QualiLife Pharmaceuticals makes a product called Zestra...
Why She Wants Sex Less Than You
Lots and lots of angry comments and e-mails from guys who are frustrated that their wives don’t want sex as much as they do. Some typical comments: "The truth is “Sexual Love” is a joke and more to do with body chemistry then anything actually real. Wow… Awesome...
One Simple Thing You Can Do Tonight to Awe Your Wife
If you’re married with kids, you know that keeping their clutter contained is like killing a Hydra. Chop off one head and three spring up to take its place. The Clutter Dilemma can drive even the sanest parent wild with frustration. What you don’t know, though, is...
Warm ‘er Up, Lube ‘er Up: Two Simple Things to Try This Weekend to Help Her Find Her O
Most men get a huge kick out of their wife’s orgasm, especially if they get to help along the way. In fact, studies show that guys say a woman’s orgasm is one of the “most sexually satisfying experiences men could have.” And I’m sure it comes as no surprise to hear...
Best Lube Ever! Why You Need It Even if You Think You Don’t
“My wife doesn't get "wet" like she used to. Sometimes not at all! This is something new that’s gradually getting worse. In the past, doing a little oral on "dry" evenings did the trick, but now that's not even working. Could her age have something to do with it?...
Girl Game: Boggle His Mind in Ten Seconds or Less
Ready to up your Girl Game? Take this dress ... These shoes ... And throw in a couple of these ... Tell him you bought a new outfit for him to take you dancing in. Give him an impromptu fashion show. Ask him if he's ready to go. Then...
Nice Girls Do Squirt. Really!
Squirt. It’s an embarrassing word, isn’t it? I mean, it’s okay for hoses to squirt. Or maybe oranges. It’s definitely okay for squirt guns to squirt. After all, squirt guns are expressly made to … well … squirt. But for a woman to squirt? That feels a little …...
Stop Blaming Yourself For His Missing Sex Drive
Newly-wed, 9 month old baby, no sex. My husband claims to have no sex drive, and explicitly rejects my advances to the point where we have been fighting about it for months now. Each time he says, “No, stop, I don't want to, I can't,” etc. This is incredibly painful...
Orgasm Crash Cycle: Why He Loses Interest After Sex & What You Can Do About It
My husband and I have this weird pattern going where we have great, highlight reel sex, and I feel so much more attracted and connected to him, but then afterwards he completely loses interest. Day 1: (after sex): He crashes … he’s distant, self-absorbed, and low...
Tired of CareBear Sex? How to Get Him to Ramp Things Up
Ugh! Really struggling in the bedroom. I’m dying for more dominance and intensity, but it’s like my husband just can’t get it. We’ve talked about it a million times, but he defaults to the same four gentle moves every time we have sex, and my body just shuts down on...
The #1 Way to Kill Your Wife’s Sex Drive
Here's a situation I run across from time to time. My wife sent me some stuff about dominance a couple of years ago … I don’t know … all these websites where they talked about the guy taking the lead and being in charge in the bedroom, slapping her on the ass, being...
How to (Finally) Get Him to Bring It In the Bedroom
Things in the bedroom are okay, but they’re just kind of … predictable. We start off fine … I’m trying to get into it, but then he subsides into that slow, sensual stroking stuff that seems to be all he wants to do, and the mood completely evaporates. Like mist in the...
Sleep Apnea Lowers IQ and Makes You Lose Your Mind … Literally!
You already know you’re not as sharp after losing a few nights’ sleep, but what you probably don’t know is that if your snoring results from sleep apnea, you might actually be doing permanent, possibly irreversible, damage to your brain. Weird, but true. Losing Brain...
‘Two womens doing in bed hot and sexy’
One of the more enjoyable things about writing a blog is looking at the search terms that bring people your way. I also find it helpful because some of the search terms show me where I need to hone my message more clearly. So ... To the reader who googled 'two womens...
Do You Have Something that Will Make Me Want Sex?
"Do you have something that will make me want sex again?" she asked, a slight note of desperation in her voice. I paused and looked at her for a moment, not quite sure how to respond. She glanced away, not wanting to meet my eyes, and I realized she was acutely...
Welcome to ‘Deseret News’ Readers
Hi and welcome to readers of the Deseret News. I thoroughly enjoyed my interview with Jennifer Graham, and am glad that she is shining a light on a problem that is still stigmatized to a certain extent. Testosterone may seem like a male issue, but every woman who has...
Girl Game: Sugar Your Way to a Magical Hoo-Ha
You know how people say there’s no such thing as a magical vagina? They are so, so wrong! I’ve finally discovered the secret of the magic hoo-ha. A universal turn-on for men is soft, smooth skin, especially in the … ahem … bikini area. While legs are fairly...
Why Nice Girls Don’t Get the Sex They Want
“I’ve learned after seven years of no sex with my husband that there’s nothing I can do. I’ve talked to him over and over about it, but he won’t tell me why he’s not interested. I’ve about given up and resigned myself to the next 18 years being sexless, too.” --Carole...
Magic Massage – How to Heat Your Wife Up
My husband found some massage videos on YouTube, and decided to practice, using me as his guinea pig. He's given me massages before, but Wow! this one was different. There was quivering, there was shaking, there was shuddering. From 0 to 60 in under 20...
How Leadership Is Like a Striptease
We women love for our husbands to be strong leaders. Leadership is like catnip to us, so confident and sexy. Decisive leadership gives us that little shiver of delight that runs down your spine, and makes you feel all tingly. Sometimes, though, we actually sabotage...
3 Things You Absolutely Must Do If You Want Your Husband to Step Up & Lead
You hate when you have to tell him to be a leader … to be more dominant … not to take your crap anymore … It’s frustrating that he can’t ‘just get it’, but there are things you can do to help him step up and lead. Increase Energy Just like time and money, energy is...
How Two Women Got Their Hot & Sexy Husbands Back
And for those out there who are still wondering whether optimizing testosterone levels really makes a difference ... Look at how these two women got back their hot and sexy husbands. "His libido is out the roof," she says, blushing ......
Leadership Takes a Crap Ton of Energy … or Why He Can’t Just ‘Get It’
“Why can’t he just get it?” I hear this lament over and over from women who want their husbands to be strong leaders … both in and out of the bedroom. Usually, there have been conversations where she has asked her husband to take more of a leadership role and...
Try This One Simple Habit to Bring Your Wife Closer
One thing I've noticed while working with couples is how little face-to-face time they actually spend together. We all know the drill … you get home from work and barely have time to acknowledge each other before one of you has to start dinner and the other leaves to...
How Not to Screw Up Your Kid When It Comes to Sex
"Well, if you and Dad have a lot of sex, then it must be okay." This was my daughter’s conclusion at the end of a long conversation about the birds and the bees. What you tell your kid about sex matters. As a parent, you have an incredible amount of influence over how...
5 Ways a Blindfold Helps Your Wife Let Go of Her ‘Good Girl’
You know that thing your wife does where she becomes an octopus during sex, and all of a sudden, it seems like she has eight hands that cover up all the fun parts? And she talks about how fat she is and wants you to turn off the lights and not look at anything? Yeah …...
How to Trigger Her Responsive Desire & Get the Sex You Want
"How can I get my wife to be as interested in sex as I am? She just never seems to think about it at all." You are the one who’s in control of your wife’s desire. That’s a bold statement, I know. And probably hard for you to believe. After reading this post, you...