Why So Many Men Don’t Take Risks

Why So Many Men Don’t Take Risks

So, why do you think that is? Do you think it’s because of all the media that portrays men as clueless idiots?

Yeah, maybe that plays into it, but no, I think the biggest thing is that men don’t fight tigers, anymore.

There were only 4 of us left after our workout; Brian, the gym owner/trainer, another woman, another guy and me. We were stretching out after an intense workout and had fallen into desultory conversation that had taken a more introspective turn.

The question came up as to why so many men were so afraid to take risks. Brian said that over the decades he had been training men in martial arts and physical fitness, the men he coached were increasingly reluctant to take risks or to push themselves to excel.

“I don’t know. It’s like they want everything handed to them. If it’s too much work, forget it, they’d rather go home and play video games.”

We talked about how the reluctance to take risks bleeds out from the gym into their personal lives, careers and relationships. And we talked about the fact that men who are afraid to take risks are less attractive to women.

Other Woman, with a dawning light of comprehension     You know, I never thought about it, but that’s the main thing that attracted me to my husband. He never put up with my crap. I always knew he was strong enough to handle me.

Me       Yeah, now that my husband is doing MMA, he is so much stronger, not just physically, but mentally. He stands up to me more than he ever did, he’s not afraid to argue with me anymore. It’s really sexy. MMA has changed him more than any other single thing he has done.   

The other guy was mostly silent throughout the conversation. But I hope he was taking it all in.

Changing the world, one little conversation at a time.